Transman partner

i just want to tell a cute story

2020.10.22 06:10 buttholegymnastics i just want to tell a cute story

next weekend will be my partner and i's 6 month anniversary. they are black and nonbinary, whereas i am a white transman, for context.
we met on bumble just before the pandemic, and decided to meet in person literally the day bars closed in our state--in fact, we were supposed to meet at a bar but just drank wine at their apartment instead. we hadnt realized how serious all this was going to be at the time, so the meeting didnt seem like a big deal. lo and behold, we spent the next two months not seeing each other, but talking every day. my mental health was in shambles and i missed them terribly even after just our one meeting that i eventually had a conversation with my family who i live with and we all agreed it would be better for me to start seeing them in person than to continue being apart. it didnt take but a month for us to become official--with nothing but time on our hands, we'd spent a lot of time exploring our feelings already, i think.
now, im a sucker for long hair. i have long hair myself, and i find long hair to be incredibly attractive on others. there's a lot of things about my partner that make them the stunning specimen that they are, but one of their most noticeable features is their just-past-shoulder-length locs. i knew right away that their hair was very important to them. i also know the kind of harassment and annoying levels of awe black people experience over their hair from white people. needless to say i never expected in a million years that less than a week after officially becoming partners, they would ask me to help them do a retwist. me, a white dude with zero experience. i knew my partner well enough then to know this was a big deal and i know them even better now and i can say it was a HUGE deal to ask me to do that. all i did was separate their locs, but they sat there patiently as i took WAY too long to do it because i wanted to be as gentle as possible.
i cried that night. i cried for a week, actually. it was such a profound bonding experience and a testament to their trust in me. after only being officially partners for a week? every time i think about this i get misty-eyed. i thanked them for putting so much faith in me and for allowing me this experience of cultural closeness. my partner is very proudly black and im proud of them for it; their hair is a symbol of their pride, and im so grateful that they would feel compelled to invite me into such a significant process.
since our anni is so soon ive been reflecting on some good memories. its hard to imagine that was nearly 6 months ago. i love my partner with all my heart and we've made so many other great memories since then, but i think none quite as profound as this one.
hope yall enjoyed!
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2020.10.20 22:29 tealChibi Anxious but excited to turn things around

Since last semester, I've been really feeling so down. At the time of mid-March, I had seen my ex for the last time before going home for spring break and having to stay off-campus of my university for the remainder of the semester. I could hardly study or focus once I was home, returned to my old job for about 5-6 weeks and getting an internship.
For several months, namely March to June, I lost much of my appetite, sex drive, and it began harder to be happy/smile/laugh. I spent much time sucked into Twitter and social media. My ex was being an ass, so at some point, I drew some lines in the sand about things I didn't care to try to argue about anymore (social/political issues) and hoped that my lack of enthusiasm would ward him off. So he broke up with me, and surprisingly I didn't see it coming that night, but after that I didn't care.
I dreaded returning to my job because I was worried about my mental health, but did so in case my dad lost his job or got furloughed, since my mom was unemployed for a few months before she was offered some catering gigs in the last month or two. We're not just scraping by (by a long shot), but the economy seemed to be going to shit then, as many of you I'm sure are keenly aware and may have been much more impacted.
My dad agreed to let me see a nurse practitioner in June or July. So far, she has a working diagnosis for me that is bipolar disorder (type II?), though admits there may be some comorbidity (multiple mental illnesses) present possibly. I've been struggling to stay on my meds because at least half of its purpose is to help me sleep, which is hard especially when classes are going on and I'm a major procrastinaor.
During this summer, I was doing my best to disregard my discomfort/dysphoria at work. I finally learned once and for all I need to come AND stay out of the closet- I'm a transman. However, I've only been out to everyone I've told so far for a little over a month. Sometimes, I have had some doubt, but my progression over I think the last 5-6 years has shown me that I need to and am ready to transition. Being a very anxious person, that has been dominating my thoughts since I came back to dorm life in August. I hope to get a job soon, but want to feel confident, in control of my school life and grades, and free as myself.
So why am I particularly anxious? Because tomorrow, I can finally tell the doc at an informed consent clinic on my uni's campus I'm ready for testosterone, including in regards to my relationships. I've seen her twice already, and she made it clear as long as I'm ready to, she'll be happy to prescribe me testosterone. I've read the papers she gave me that give details about the risks and effects this hrt will have, and each time makes me excited. I feel like I can't wait, so I suppose this is my way of letting this all out, to a bunch of strangers on the internet.
The only thing that's uncertain now is whether my partner will find me attractive and stay with me or not. They're now questioning their orientation, though they struggle sometimes with referring to me in a masculine manner. They're from a different country (so long distance relationship) so although they have very open-minded and progressive views, they still probably see me as a lady. We have discussed it of course, and if they weren't wanting me to transition medically I would've cut things short right there. They said they can't stop me from pursuing what'll make me happy, so they'd rather that and see how things go.
I follow a subreddit for transmen and frequently look at my notifs on mobile. I see people detailing themselves starting their social and medical journeys of transitioning everyday and want to be among them already. I was sure two years ago that this is what I wanted, but not got this fa so close to want I've been longing for. I never thought it would be possible, but now that I've escaped a shitty relationship that's inferior to the one I have now, I'm not worrying as much. The only thing is, even if the pandemic ends sometime, say next year, I probably won't be able to experience any physical affection unless the rare hug from mom when she comes to bring me to appointments or drops off things I need. But I know that once I feel more like myself, I'm sure I could get through it. I've been mentally preparing for years. Things won't be terribly expensive and the doc at the clinic isn't gatekeep-y. I feel super lucky that that's the case. I think I might finally feel confident in myself when I go outside. I'll finally be focused on the other things in my life, less distracting anxiety and dysphoria. I'll sound and look like me. It won't solve everything, but it'll greatly affect my life for the better. My next apppointment at the clinic is on Wednesday. I just can't wait.
TL;DR: Life's been shitty since around the time the pandemic/quarantine started. Went through the summer working, came back to uni, admitted I'm trans, and can finally do something about it.
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2020.10.14 20:49 CakeAndCrows So, 4yrs Ago I Started a Scarf, & Still Haven't Finished...

Hi, I'm Arthur (he/him). I'm 25, and this is basically my first post on a major reddit forum. I mostly have this account to catch art thieves who try to repost my work w/o permission, so I'm kind of nervous about making this post since I don't know how well it will be received. But, here goes!
Four years ago, I commented on one of cr1tikal's videos about knitting scarves while I watched his videos. Just about a month ago, I was finally notified that people had been commenting on my post (great website, YT; 10/10). Folks have been encouraging, and so I've kind of been looking back on what I started.
The scarf that I was working on at the time, I've decided to call "the monster scarf from hell" because I, as usual, bit off more than I could chew with a new project, thinking, "Oh yeah I'll totally manage this". Well, as mentioned, I have ADHD and life sort of happened, and I forgot about the project. I wasn't in the best mental state at the time anyway, and my life was pretty unstable around that time. But that same year, I made a new group of friends, met my boyfriend and my partner, and the next year I came out as a transman. From there on in, things have been slowly getting better (I'm 1 year on testosterone as of this past August! Also finally got medicated for depression/PTSD symptoms), and from time to time, I've worked on that monster scarf when the urge struck me (not often, but often enough that I didn't forget).
So anyway, a month ago I get notifications on my post from ages ago, and people are asking if I ever finished it, or if I would send it in to cr1tikal. Truth is, the monster scarf is mine when it's done. The bastard is gonna suck up half of my lifespan just making it anyway, so, sorry; no dice on that. I am, however, gonna try to start a new, more reasonably sized scarf to send to Charlie. Since (I think) he lives in California, I'm gonna try to make it a lighter knit, too, so it's not hell to wear it in the warmer weather. I know it can get cold in Cali, but still, probably not as cold as I'm used to up here in the north like I do (MN). I hope the neutral color isn't off-putting, I just really like grays and browns since they kind of match whatever you put them with.
So, here's hoping! I'm gonna start watching cr1tikal's stuff again and see where it takes me. I'm stuck at home after a trip to the ER (not covid, an injury), so I've got at least the next week and a half to get the new scarf started. If I finish it, I'll update here. Don't expect speed on the project, of course. lol
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TLDR: I started knitting a scarf 4 years ago while watching cr1tikal's videos, and haven't finished it. Folks took notice of my post and I'm trying to knit again after a long hiatus of trying to get my shit together. If I finish the new scarf, I'll try to send it to Charlie as a 'thank you' for getting me through some tougher times with his videos when I was younger.

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2020.10.14 13:28 aboinamedJared Adoption

Has anyone adopted? What was the process like? How did you decide this was the best decision? How did your partner feel? What are things I need to know adopting as a transman specifically?
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2020.10.13 17:42 Selftoheal Feeling a little worried. I'm on 1 month on T and only my partner, very close friends and colleagues from work knows about this. My mom is a very religious person but my dad just is just being a dad. I'm not really that close to my parents and I'm holding back telling them that I'm now a transman.

Feeling a little worried. I'm on 1 month on T and only my partner, very close friends and colleagues from work knows about this. My mom is a very religious person but my dad just is just being a dad. I'm not really that close to my parents and I'm holding back telling them that I'm now a transman. submitted by Selftoheal to trans [link] [comments]


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2020.10.09 21:11 SphirosOKelli Looking for a trans virtual event that has great info? Check out the 7th annual TIES event October 14th

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2020.10.09 21:11 SphirosOKelli Looking for a trans virtual event that has great info? Check out the 7th annual TIES event October 14th

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2020.09.20 08:00 kingcrabcraig Being a SoNM has made me distrustful of women and it's effecting my psychological treatment

I see all the time that people talk about women who distrust men because of abusive male partners or family members. I rarely ever see people who have similar experiences to me, someone with an abusive mother plus an emotionally manipulative ex girlfriend breeding a distrust in women in me, talked about.
My mother, throughout my childhood, used my lack of a present father to make me extremely dependent upon her. She couldn't do it to my older siblings because they had a father that was there for them. She belittles me in every conversation we have. She misgenders me purposefully, even though she is well aware that I am a transman. She did this when she was drunk, but mother has actually called me a "stupid tranny" before. She makes me do everything while her and my younger siblings do nothing but watch tv after work/school. She uses my older brother, a real flying monkey, to gain information I tell him in confidence, even now that he's 25 and lives an hour away. My brother that is two years older than me, although I love him dearly, is absolutely the golden child. He has a full time job, an apartment, and a beautiful fiancee. I'm the mentally ill screw up that is struggling to graduate high school. And to add to it all, she just adopted a new baby. My oldest brother is 27. I am 17 years older than my new little brother. I am in awe, honestly.
I'll talk a little about my ex as well, since I mentioned her and I'm feeling ranty. I'll just list off some shit she did in our year long relationship. She made me feel bad for going out with my friends instead of spending all of my free time with her. She would call me in the middle of the night, and fake an anxiety attack if I said I didn't want to talk. She threatened suicide on a few occasions if I didn't come pick her up from her house and take her somewhere. She acted as if my bisexuality and past relationships with men made me dirty somehow and claimed that "she would fix me." And after I finally was able to break it off, a week later she texted asking me if I would set her up with my best friend.
Now we come to the purpose of this post. I don't trust women that are my mother's age. As a result of this, I don't trust my therapist. Do you see how that might me a problem? I end up unconsciously pretty much grey rocking my therapist when it comes to talking about myself (most of what therapy is) and it is causing problems. In the moment I just do it and then beat myself up about it later but am too embarrassed to correct myself to her because I technically lied and then we would get into why and I don't trust her enough with that. Her perception because of this is that I'm doing fine and I am REALLY not. I'm looking for a different (probably male) psychiatrist so this doesn't happen again because I really screwed myself over.
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2020.09.10 01:27 ghoulgutz My bf only has 2 years left to ever have a biological child

This could be a bit long and please excuse my grammar and spelling since english is not my everyday language.
My boyfriend (23) and I (25, female) have known each other for 5 years and are a couple since 3 years. My boyfriend is a transman, currently around 3 years on testosterone. A few days ago he talked about children with his doctor and the optiond to freeze eggs etc. and the doc told him that cryo would be way too expensive to pay for as a regular person but that however my bf has around 2 years left before becoming infertile. Now here is the problem... I LOVE children and made it very clear that beeing a mother is something I 100% want to become in the future. Like in: "if you want to run with me longterm be ready to become a dad in the future" I will get my degree around summer next year. He on the other hand just started his education this month and will graduate in 3 years. Additionally to that he still needs psychoherapie to work out a bunch of emotional problems. And I also tend to have emotional ups and downs due to the darkseasons and in longterm stressfull situations I get physically sick too.
I just feel that 2 years is not enough time for us to get everything settled to ensure our potential child a stable upbringing (financially and emotionally). Also I feel like I want to work a while in my field, save up some money to get a nice place to live in, I wanted to adopt a dog, to travel with my friends, have an amazing wedding... Only having 2 years left seems like no time to live my life to it's fullest as an adult under 30.
I am scared to regret it all and maybe start to hate my boyfriend and my own child out of my toxic thoughts... But also I don't want to take away his chance of becoming a biological father to one of his potential children. It's really important for him also due to cultural reasons and the fact, that his family would finally accept him as a "real male", me as his partner and our child as his "real kid" and not just as him taking care of "my kid". He is an only child and has no extended family here. Also he just moved from his hometown (where his parents still reside) to mine.
We will have a talk about that subject on the weekend and I am already panicking. I don't know what to do and I really don't want to hurt him. Any advise on that topic? How should I tell him without hurting him? Should I just agree, wait and hope I will feel ready in those 2 years? Thanks.
Edit: spelling
UPDATE: We've talked it out and he understands and does not feel ready to be a parent this soon either. We will start looking for cheaper egg freezing options and he will talk to his parents about the grandchildren issues. Also he seems to not have a problem with adoption and if the time has come he will reach out to some adult children who are related to one of their parents only. Thank you for all the kind responses and I am.. very positively surprised by this community and very glad to have made a reddit account.
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2020.09.02 09:01 Hank_the_Cowdog420 I'm nervous about my dating prospects...

cw: dating while trans, medical transition, internalized transphobia probably
I am a 25 y/o transman in the process of socially transitioning and just beginning to receive professional assistance in my transition. I live in the New Orleans area, but outside of religious spaces (Jewish) I'm not heavily involved in the local queer community.
My 2-year relationship recently ended in part because I'm trans. While it ended amicably, I am upset because this was someone I was expecting to marry. While it's not my current focus, finding a life-long partner is and has always been important to me.
I am going to continue socially transitioning no matter what because it feels like what's honest and right for me. However, I'm really frightened of dating as a transman. The only people I know who date/are dating transmasculine people are all women. I'm primarily attracted to men.
While I would like to access T and eventually get top surgery, the current options for bottom surgery aren't for me. I feel like this adds another layer of complexity because I don't want to date men who see me as a fetish.
How bad is it dating as a newly-out gay transman? Does it get easier or harder as you begin to look more masculine? Please be as honest as possible, I want to know what I'm getting into.
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2020.08.24 08:08 dunlop-a i’m a lesbian and my partner is questioning their gender

i’m probably gonna delete this in a little bit? i dunno. i’m a teenager and a lesbian, and a few months ago when i started dating my comrade i thought they were a lesbian as well, but they’ve realized they aren’t a girl in this past while. i’m completely ok with that. i’m kind of using lesbian as a go to easy term to describe my sexuality. i just know i’m not attracted to men. my partner is questioning whether they are a transman or not. i have no idea what to do. i love them so much and i support them wholeheartedly but i don’t know if i can be in a relationship with a man. this relationship is really really good. i’m just not attracted to men and i don’t want to lie or hurt them. i genuinely have no idea what to do. i hope this makes sense and doesn’t sound insensitive. i want to support them as best as i can but i don’t know how, and i’m worried if i break up with them over this it will make their life harder.
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2020.08.13 13:56 ThrowRAteddyberry I think I miss my old self.

I've been on T since early 2018, I hadn't even considered myself trans a full year prior. That isn't to say it's not possible, but I never came to a solid conclusion. In fact, I would tell myself "Oh I wish I was a guy, but I'm still cis". "I wish I could stand up to pee, but I'm cis". I would remind myself that wanting to stand up to pee is just because it would be way more convenient. Remind myself that I just wanted to be a guy to have different problems while acknowledging guys have their own struggles.
I was pretty freaking transphobic years ago too, which I am glad to move on from. Then I got into my relationship, my first trans partner. I had learned a lot and questioned some of my pre-puberty anxiety I had as a kid, where I felt a loss of control when my chest started budding.
Having to suddenly start wearing bras, I hated it. I didn't want my chest to grow. Then it did. Then I ended up struggling with hypersexuality and didn't feel dysphoric as much as just being insecure and overweight.
Having OCD really doesn't help my bouts of doubt. I would sometimes mention to a couple of people that I may not be a guy afterall, but it would lead to me reevaluating how I feel based on how I react to my T changes.
I think I am comfortable with my changes. Although, sometimes I feel like my clit is suppose to be small again. That I am weird for it being big. However, it won't ever reverse and I am okay with it, if it ends up giving me significant stress then I have my professionals to help me and a great support system.
I was trying to lose weight and consider top surgery because I know I can't bind forever, and well ... I don't know. Supportive people in my life can kinda make it confusing too. Because to others, they think it's easy. Don't want to bind forever? Get top surgery.
I have been feeling more comfortable with my breasts. Not like any sexual way or admiration, I am fine with them on me. What I'm not fine with is people being able to see them (aside from medical staff and intimate partners).
I really don't want to express these thoughts outside. But maybe I should just be open and honest with the friends, partner, and immediately family members close to me. But I don't even know what to say when I'm uncertain.
I thought maybe I have a wrong label. But if I'm not a transman like I thought, then I must be NB like I figured myself to be before coming out as M. It's at this point where I just mentally toss my hands up in the air and wish to plant my face directly to my desk.
It gets so overwhelming, I had a dream I was me. As in, before hormones or name change. I was who I had been for a while, and it didn't give me any anxiety. I decided to just do my hair and some makeup every once in a while, and remind myself it's not really gendered, but that there is most likely a reason I find it so relieving.
I am not sure how honest I'll be with myself tomorrow. I just needed to get these thoughts out. It feels like this questioning is a deep secret that I have to find out alone, when I assume that's not how it works.
If I end up detransitioning, in one way or another, I will either hide and cry or meltdown if any of my friends or family pull some sorta "told you so" or "you should have known better". Part of me just wants to scream and rip my hair out of these freaking frustrations, part of me just wants to just curl up and just let time go by.
I am going to try to sleep, I didn't realize how heavy this really has weighed on me ...
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2020.08.10 03:31 littledetours 34 [M4F] PNW USA / Online - Nerdy jock in search of romance (or at least a good friend)

I moved to the Pacific Northwest a couple months ago for work. My dog and I are pretty serious about social distancing, so I haven't had a chance to go out and meet folks. I'd love to get to know folks who are also in the PNW. Of course, I'm also down to chat with people regardless of location. Friendship is fine, though I admit I'm getting to a point in my life where I'd really like to settle down with a romantic partner. I'm primarily looking for fellow nerds, tree-huggers, and jocks (or any combination of the three). For those of you who need a visual, let me know and I'll send you a link so you can see what I look like (r4r doesn't like the link I've tried sharing before). If you've made it this far and you're interested, there are a few other things you should know in advance:
  1. I am 100% dedicated to this ridiculously derptastic, perfect mutt. She's the peanut butter to my jelly. She's getting a bit older and spends about 80% of her time sleeping. The remaining 20% is spent eating, sniffing stuff, and waiting for me to scratch her butt. Please be advised that anyone who messages me will be subjected to many dog pictures. (Seriously, who can resist this face?)
  2. I'm really not kidding about being nerdy. I study stuff for fun. I also love it when people are passionate about something and nerdgasm when it becomes the topic of conversation. Please, talk to me about history, the humanities, science, math, or anything else you have a passion for. Tell me about how much you love Greek mythology, the writings of Octavia E. Butler, Star Trek, rock formations, botany, astrophysics, and whatever else floats your boat.
  3. I'm a transman who looks 100% cis with the exception of what's going on between my legs. You might think being trans is problematic, but the upside is that having spent a significant part of my life living as a woman comes with benefits including (but not limited to): knowing where the clitoris is and what to do with it; not being grossed out by menstruation or whining about buying you tampons; not feeling threatened by strong women; understanding that white male privilege is a thing; being in a position to address toxic masculinity; believing strongly in the importance of treating a relationship as a romantic partnership between equals and not expecting a woman to take care of me and my shit.
  4. I am a die-hard fan of the Avatar universe (no, not the blue people; the other Avatar). I will geek out so hard over ATLA, LOK, and the associated books and comics that you'll probably beg me to shut up. So if you're down to do a Netflix watch party of ATLA or LOK, be sure to let me know!
I think that's more than enough for now. Feel free to drop me a message in chat or PM and we'll see what happens.
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2020.08.10 01:05 littledetours 34 [M4F] PNW USA / Online - Nerdy jock in search of romance (or at least a good friend)

I moved to the Pacific Northwest a couple months ago for work. My dog and I are pretty serious about social distancing, so I haven't had a chance to go out and meet folks. I'd love to get to know folks who are also in the PNW. Of course, I'm also down to chat with people regardless of location. Friendship is fine, though I admit I'm getting to a point in my life where I'd really like to settle down with a romantic partner. I'm primarily looking for fellow nerds, tree-huggers, and jocks (or any combination of the three). For those of you who need a visual, here's some stuff to show you what I look like. If you've made it this far and you're interested, there are a few other things you should know in advance:
  1. I am 100% dedicated to this ridiculously derptastic, perfect mutt. She's the peanut butter to my jelly. She's getting a bit older and spends about 80% of her time sleeping. The remaining 20% is spent eating, sniffing stuff, and waiting for me to scratch her butt. Please be advised that anyone who messages me will be subjected to many dog pictures. (Seriously, who can resist this face?)
  2. I'm really not kidding about being nerdy. I study stuff for fun. I also love it when people are passionate about something and nerdgasm when it becomes the topic of conversation. Please, talk to me about history, the humanities, science, math, or anything else you have a passion for. Tell me about how much you love Greek mythology, the writings of Octavia E. Butler, Star Trek, rock formations, botany, astrophysics, and whatever else floats your boat.
  3. I'm a transman who looks 100% cis with the exception of what's going on between my legs. You might think being trans is problematic, but the upside is that having spent a significant part of my life living as a woman comes with benefits including (but not limited to): knowing where the clitoris is and what to do with it; not being grossed out by menstruation or whining about buying you tampons; not feeling threatened by strong women; understanding that white male privilege is a thing; being in a position to address toxic masculinity; believing strongly in the importance of treating a relationship as a romantic partnership between equals and not expecting a woman to take care of me and my shit.
  4. I am a die-hard fan of the Avatar universe (no, not the blue people; the other Avatar). I will geek out so hard over ATLA, LOK, and the associated books and comics that you'll probably beg me to shut up. So if you're down to do a Netflix watch party of ATLA or LOK, be sure to let me know!
I think that's more than enough for now. Feel free to drop me a message in chat or PM and we'll see what happens.
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2020.08.08 14:36 feelingfrisky99 Finding partners in the trans community

I'm not looking for a date with this post. I am trying to sort out my sexuality and navigate the transgender world in a way that is respectful but moves the ball forward.
I'm M2F non-binary. Been actively transitioning for the last year and I'm pansexual.
It's hard (no pun intended) to find actual people to talk to about this. I'm married and she wants to be supportive, but I can see this is going to end soon. We are not bitter or angry, at least not anymore, but it's obvious that my transition has turned her off. I'm non-binary and have a functioning bottom half. But the fact that my top half and fem presentation is a mood killer for her has a mutual effect.
I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. Our living situation and finances have us tied for the next year at least.
I find myself lately thinking a lot about finding a transman as either a partner or even just a FWB situation. I want someone who actively wants me. My attraction to a person is based largely on how I feel about them. I've found myself attracted to many male coworkers and friends after I was around them for awhile. I never told any of them. But I also didn't know I was trans until i was 30, didn't accept i was trans until almost 40.
I've been repressing my gender and orientation for most of my life.
My orientation and active desires seems to fluctuate. Recently my sex drive went away all together. When that happened, being desired by my partner suddenly became more relevant to me.
I'm hoping to find a transman boyfriend who is fairly frisky and wants to use me for my body. In my younger years that's how I viewed my girlfriends. It would be nice if someone saw me that way.
I'm not sure how to find this mystery person. I realize I'm still married and committed to my wife, and I know this situation is unfair to her. I can't be who she wants anymore. I would like to move on, and live a full life. I want the same for her. She should have someone that makes her feel wanted. I'm trying, but with no sex drive and me enjoying my transition which she hates, it's not going well.
So are there transmen looking for middle aged non-binaries like me? Is it offensive that I'm probably into that, but don't really know cause I've never been in a relationship with one?
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